There are many beautiful women out there. The consequential, inescapable challenge for a man seekinglooking for a partner is that he gets to pick only one.

Nobody gets to decide the rules for their happiness: we must make do with the rules that are already set.

There are things we want, things we want ourselves to want, and things we should want. Ideally, all three are the same.

For this speech, I shall throw away my preconceived notions and expectations forabout relationships.

If I can start from an empty slate and reach the same conclusion via measured steps, it goes to show how sound my views were from the get-go.

Who, how, and when; theseWho? How? When? These are the three questions I need to answer myself. The order will do as it isnot matter.

There are many types of women I admire, and whose company I enjoy, and even some whom I could consider spending the rest of my life with.

Once a partner has been chosen, the chances for a successful switch drops and keeps lowering further if things go well.

HadIf you thenhad a clone of your single self to pick a partner of their own, they’d still see the merits of other women.

SoAnd so would you, if you had nothing else to focus on, that being easier in some days than others.

Whether your preferences stay the same, other women may always fit the bill.

Growing closer together is what prevents change from weakening your bond.

Their pros and cons will shape your life, both individual and shared, just as you'll shape theirs.

The question is not just who I want to be involved with in my life, but also whose life would I want to be involved in.in?