Luke Weiner
9/4/16
“My Response to the Ethicist Problem”

The letter sent to the ethicist was about one’s dilemma on whether it is the right thing to do, by telling her friend’s husband about her affairs with other men.
The author of the letter displays her disgust with her friend as well as her willingness to tell her husband about her affairs which would consequently end up with the loss of a very dear friend.

The Ethicist begins his response by stating that marital affairs are no one else’s business, but finds her friend’s reasons for remaining married as selfish because she is only in it in order to fulfill her own desires.
If her friend showed any remorse or regret for her actions than this situation would be completely different.
This is simply not the case and the ethicist reminds the letter writer of her disapproval and disgust towards her friend. The ethicist also references Aristotle in saying that friendship involves reciprocation and the happiness, which overwhelms them when they are in each other’s company.
The letter writer continues to feel uncomfortable in the presence of her friend especially with the husband.
Friendship involves the telling of things, with the assumption that these things will remain confident.
The real test here is finding out if this is a good enough reason for spilling the beans.
After reading the letter and the response of the ethicist I have caome to the conclusion that the letter writer should consider the effects and consequences of her actions.
On the other hand, a good friend does not put you into this predicament.
When she swore the letter writer to secrecy, she did so only so as to involve them in their marriage problems.
She's not a genuine friend; she's a selfish friend who wants to keep them on her side and distances the letter writer from her husband's friendship.
People should never swear to the secrecy of something that goes against their integrity.
Even through all of this, I feel that if her friendship means a great deal to her thaen she should not tell.

The letter writer needs to sit their friend down and knock some sense into her, letting her know that she is uncomfortable with the situation.

The Ten Commandments are universal laws that are practiced by nearly everyone all over the world.
Despite the widespread agreement of the morals in these rules, they are often broken by society.
One of the more captivating laws in these commandments is number six that says “Tthou Sshall not commit Aadultery.”.
According to the Philosopher John Mills, the approach to the moral of adultery falls into the utilitarian school of thought.
This way of thinking is the idea, which claims there is one universal moral code:” ”the principle of utility or the greatest happiness principle. When choosing a course of action, always choose the action that will maximize pleasure/ happiness and minimize pain/unhappiness for the greatest number of people”.”

In conclusion I think telling the husband about his wife’s affairs would be the most beneficial to both the letter writer and husband.
One by reducing the stress and guilt of the letter writer and two by helping the husband learn the truth.